You Don’t Need Proof—Just a Gut Feeling: When Hope Becomes Self-Betrayal

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Why We Stay, When We Should Walk Away

Ever loved someone so hard you ignored your own truth?
Yeah, this one's going to sting—but you’ll leave feeling lighter.

In the latest episode of The Twisted Truth, Corey Wesley doesn’t just spill tea—he pours an entire boiling pot of realness on a situation many of us know too well: staying loyal to someone who’s never truly chosen you. What starts as a story about a woman walking in on her long-time situationship with another woman butt-naked on his couch quickly unravels into something bigger—our collective addiction to potential, false hope, and the toxic dance of “maybe they’ll change.”

Let’s be clear: this isn’t just a breakup tale. It’s a mirror.
It’s a reflection of the times we’ve all looked the other way, waiting for someone to “man up,” say sorry, or show up—only to get gaslit, ghosted, or guilt-tripped.

Hope Isn’t a Hall Pass for Disrespect

“Hope,” Corey says, “doesn’t look like abuse. It doesn’t look like lies.”
We tend to romanticize struggle—especially when it comes with a key to someone’s apartment, a history that spans decades, or memories we keep replaying because we’re scared of starting over.

But Corey makes a cutting point: “You don’t need evidence. You just need to trust your gut.”
Waiting for proof that someone is hurting you is like waiting for a house to fully burn down before you believe the fire alarm.

Side Chick Energy: When You Start As An Option, Don’t Expect To Be The Priority

Corey doesn’t hold back calling out the uncomfortable truth: if you started as the side chick, and the energy never shifted—maybe that’s because it was never supposed to.

Accountability matters. Patterns matter. And so does knowing when your presence is being taken for granted. “The eggplant,” he jokes, “ain’t made of gold.” But beneath the humor is a hard-hitting truth: physical connection without emotional investment is a dead-end street, no matter how long you’ve been riding.

Unmet Needs and Dating From Our Wounds

In a beautifully vulnerable moment, Corey opens up about therapy, childhood, and realizing how much of our dating patterns come from what we lacked growing up. Many of us are chasing validation, love, or attention we didn’t get at home—and sometimes, we let our trauma pick our partners.

When you keep choosing people who mistreat you, ask yourself: what part of me thinks this is all I deserve?

Let’s Talk Health, Honesty, and Modern Dating Risks

This episode doesn’t stop at heartbreak—it pulls in the real-life consequences of betrayal: from emotional damage to health risks. Corey calls out the reckless behavior of people who cheat without honesty, especially in a world where STDs and HIV are still very real. “If you’re going to lie, at least give people the choice to protect themselves,” he urges.

Because love without truth is not love—it’s manipulation.

Dating Someone With Grown Daughters? Watch the Dynamic

One of the most thought-provoking parts of the podcast? Corey’s insight into men with adult daughters who treat women like placeholders—not partners. If someone already feels secure knowing their kids will take care of them when they’re old, they may not invest in building a real future with you. That’s a brutal, rarely-spoken truth about aging, dependency, and emotional availability.

The Twisted Truth Takeaway

If someone is not showing up, not being honest, and not choosing you—you don’t need to wait for confirmation. Your intuition is all the closure you need.

You are not desperate. You are not delusional. You are simply hoping—but hope needs boundaries. Because at some point, staying too long becomes self-betrayal. And as Corey reminds us, “Kindness is not weakness. But letting someone mistreat you twice is not kindness—it’s permission.”

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