Feb. 9, 2026

Unmasking Hidden Toxicity: Recognize the Red Flags in Your Relationship

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Discover how recognizing hidden patterns in your relationships can transform your life. In this episode, Corey Wesley reveals the subtle cues that predict future outcomes and shares practical tactics to identify and break free from toxic cycles. Learn why understanding your predictable tendencies is your greatest advantage and how embracing them leads to personal growth and authentic change. Tune in to uncover the truth about your behavior and take control of your relationships today.

In this episode, Corey Wesley unpacks the often misunderstood concept of patterns in human behavior. Discover how recognizing these patterns can lead to greater self-awareness and personal growth, even if it challenges the notion of uniqueness.

Key topics:

The common misconception that patterns don't exist
How intuition is often pattern recognition in disguise
The importance of connecting the dots through emotional rhythm
Recognizing behavioral patterns in yourself and others
The difference between assumptions and insights about behavior
How past experiences influence reactions in the present
The role of curiosity over shame in pattern awareness
How acknowledging patterns results in greater control, not weakness

Timestamps:

00:00 - Introduction: What the episode covers and why it matters
0:27 - Personal story and the idea that patterns don't exist
1:16 - The argument about patterns and experience vs assumptions
1:38 - Subtle intuitive signs of patterns in behavior
2:05 - Recognizing behavioral cues like tone, pacing, and repetition
2:35 - How lived experience enhances pattern recognition
3:04 - Why people prefer to see themselves as unique
3:21 - Human predictability: repetitive emotional habits and relationship dynamics
3:48 - Connecting the dots through emotional and behavioral cues
4:17 - The difference between intuition and assumptions
4:38 - External behavior revealing internal dialogue
5:01 - Examples of internal thoughts manifesting externally
5:59 - How pattern recognition is rooted in the brain's subconscious
6:27 - Reacting emotionally based on past patterns
6:47 - Reacting to memory rather than the present moment
7:02 - Responsibility and reflection after recognizing a pattern
7:30 - The importance of awareness and curiosity over shame
8:18 - Patterns are human and not a weakness
8:41 - Recognizing early and lived-through patterns
9:08 - Asking oneself if a pattern may be true
9:38 - Growth through honest pattern recognition
10:03 - Embracing uncomfortable truths as a step to freedom